You were hired to write code. Many developers make the mistake and think that their job stops there. That’s not true. In fact, you have two jobs:

1) Write good code.

2) Be easy to work with.

“Easy to work with” means that you act professionally at all times. You disagree respectfully. You seek to understand before looking to be understood. You communicate clearly. You value your commitments.

Mostly, it means that you understand the value of relationships, and build them as carefully and intentionally as you build frameworks and libraries

Whereas the main ideas in the book revolve around the fact that people will like you if you offer them attention (“Become genuinely interested in other people”, or “Make the other person feel important — and do it sincerely” are good examples of this approach), there are other instances where the author’s advice doesn’t feel as authentic. For example, the tip “Let the other person feel like the idea is his or hers”